Helpfulness

106 How to blend self with other

Are you ready for an upbeat, witty observation of happiness? Today’s article is not scolding anyone for anything. It is celebrating our mutual existence and thanking you for joining me here. From a self-centered infant who tends to be a self-centered adult comes a sincere appreciation of you, the reader. My story encourages you to positive relationships within the human family, where you enjoy the oneness of the many.

97 Helpless, clever, enlightened – which are you?

Just like you A woman approached a stranger in a narrow hallway. Just as she swerved right the oncoming woman swerved left. They simultaneously switched directions, putting them again on a collision course. The teller of this tale spontaneously blurted out “I wonder how Emily Post would feel in a situation like this,” whereupon the stranger replied, “She would feel exactly as you do. I know because I’m Emily Post.” Sometimes in this blog we have a zig-or-zag dance where neither of us knows quite where the other party is going. When that happens, I feel exactly as you do. …

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91 How to be my other half

Frequently a husband calls his wife his better half. A certain generosity follows from that viewpoint. Let us see how far we can apply the model today. Why not by me alone Distinguishing self from other is only one way of parsing existence. In life, self must exist relative to and in unity with other. This blog has devoted many articles to the study of self and other (articles 13, 36, 50, 55). I have described our creation of silo worlds and urged combination of the silos. Such consolidation blends us and reduces our being separated by boundaries. A positive …

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79 How this is done

Stories Illinois Governor Richard Ogilvie put his full strength behind the state’s first income tax that proved vital to the state’s financial recovery. After he lost the next election, he wistfully commented that he probably couldn’t be elected to the office of dog catcher. His many progressive accomplishments included establishing the Illinois EPA which served as an example for the national EPA. After Governor Jim Edgar’s second term, it was described as Netsch II because he implemented some campaign promises of his election opponent Dawn Clark Netsch (who had incidentally proposed increasing the sales tax). There is a political adage …

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71 Breaks my heart

The stories Article 55 quoted Zig Ziglar: “You can get everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” The emphasis was on relating to other people, accommodating their needs and being flexible about cooperating. The goal was meeting all the needs: yours and theirs. Article 56 taught that self stands in the way. Putting self in the background shifts the emphasis from personal gain to social gain. Bridling the self improves interaction with others. Articles 36 and 37 discussed the benefit of teamwork in which a happy society orders its priorities …

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67 Teaching is not dispensing

It is an exchange For three days last week I profoundly enjoyed the LIFT convention presented by Mirasee. Danny Iny, with his wife and his brother, touched us all very deeply. There were stimulating guest presentations, but the most rewarding part of the conference was mingling (online) with the collegial participants. I heard of a college course on teaching aids in which the professor never used any teaching aids. Today I attended a lecture by a person who dropped out of a business training program because none of the teachers had run a business. Financial coaches teach that before you …

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59 Let freedom ring

The Ernstraudian Way grew out of a discussion of togetherness: sharing happiness in mutual support settings. We want the fruits of cooperation. Humans need personal interaction. The quality of our relationships is the foundation of achievement and progress. Individuals and society build each other. While we are rejoicing over the benefits of our togetherness, we encounter uncomfortable differences. When we are close enough together to pool our strengths, we are close enough to experience bumps and bruises to our individuality. To some people, community and diversity are opposite poles. That is obvious if community means we must be the same, …

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57 We achieve what we want

We have shared some heavy discussions. Here are outrageous exaggerations and oversimplifications that take a lighter look just for the fun of it. Sometimes wise things are said in jest. A few undefined dogmas Public demonstrations look like requests for other people to do something. I am a peace activist who does not protest or demonstrate. It is more inviting to radiate. Printing money does not create wealth. It inflates the numbers we attach to existing resources. Laws do not change who we are; they reflect who we are. Happiness is not established by legislation telling people to be nice. …

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35 Martians or Covid19?

For decades, there have been movies depicting invasion of Earth by hostile Martians. The story lines have climaxed in worldwide coming together for human survival. Today the invading force is a virus instead. It is sad to contemplate that it takes a serious external threat to bring people together. Together? Really? Doesn’t sheltering in place appear to be keeping people apart so they will not infect each other? Willingness to keep apart, even when that is inconvenient, actually does express regard for the welfare of others. That is a togetherness. This article follows a fairly thorough discussion of human attitudes. …

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29 Are your toes stepped on?

Covid-19 stay-at-home reminder: “Stepped on toes” is strictly metaphorical. Are your toes stepped on occasionally? If not, you are not close enough together. While I was tuning a piano, the owner was having difficulty moving a bookcase across the living room rug. When I stood up from the piano to assist, she snapped “why should you help me?” This was not ill will; it was the independence of a young female who was not about to depend on an older male for help. She did look athletic and was likely as strong as I was. Despite her logic, the move …

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