Being For Others . blog © copyright 2020 Kent Busse
Course Overview Excerpts
This is the brief summary Table of Contents for all the blog posts.
Other TOC pages give more or less detail for each article.
1 A polite correction [12 Jan 2019 / 15 Sep 2019]
Grocery product mislabeling handled amicably with merchant, not law enforcement
Constructive outcome: self-monitoring
Resolution of differences; responsive merchants
2 The promised land: Mexico [9 Mar 2019]
Promotion of permanent refugee settlements for the benefit of refugees and the host country Mexico
Significant research required before implementation
3 Healthy happy lucky you [31 Oct 2019]
Positive Mental Attitude (PMA) leads to choosing happiness
Aristotle purpose of life
Attitude brings altitude, contagious happiness
4 Cacophony [7 Nov 2019]
Playground religious contests = combative ignorance
Admonition: adults should seek positive exercises
5 Wishy-washy [14 Nov 2019]
Car turns right or left to stay on the road
Flexibility, progress is neither unique nor linear
6 Let’s be (positively) real [21 Nov 2019]
Patience; long path to right goal (Paul inside every Saul)
Redemption, selfishness disappears by atrophy
7 Single-party state? [29 Nov 2019]
Positive relationships among empathetic people
Diversity, pluralism over polarization (as in two-party system)
Shortcomings (narrowness) of one-party system
Rebellion against party is less damaging than rebellion against state
8 Ranked Choice Voting (Instant Runoff) [3 Dec 2019]
Promoting civility and balancing, third parties without thrown away votes
Ranked Choice Voting (RCV) uses highest viable choice if first choice loses
(1) no wasted votes
(2) no runoffs
(3) more official than popular polls, very influential
9 Counting votes – RCV [6 Dec 2019]
Picnic location story; cheating tax collector story; sports brackets
Sampling theory simplifies getting nuanced results
Suggested counting formula
10 How to buy successfully [11 Dec 2019]
Argument against impulse buying; no buyer’s remorse
Honorable informative advertising; buy for intended use
11 How to evade discouragement [23 Dec 2019]
Musings: human role on life’s stage; quality over quantity
12 Discover your happy [11 Feb 2020]
Short socializing examples threaded by the happy person
Perceive the “happy world” — contagious.
13 You create your own world [14 Feb 2020]
Create better world thoughtfully in unity, not unanimity
“Puff talk” myths debunked,
14 Noah complex [18 Feb 2020]
No need to be separatist to avoid fighting; understand and uplift
15 Peak motivation [21 Feb 2020]
Hard-wired for cooperation, social value stronger than self-interest
Geriatric suicide (not needed), struggling father, single mom examples of others ahead of self
Strength from will, not resistance – power of empathy
16 So, what is needed? [24 Feb 2020]
Needed for better future, not for overindulgence or bossing others
Restorative justice = reconstruction and healing
17 Being for (and aware of) others [28 Feb 2020]
Restraint rather than greed, need for sharing production and consumption,
18 When better does not mean more [3 Mar 2020]
Measuring-increasing production model
What to measure, realistic expectations, perceptions
19 Engulfed in beauty [5 Mar 2020]
Genuine healing environment, not gloss-over
Useful statistics, beauty of the good
20 What is the big picture? [9 Mar 2020]
Beautiful world context: perspective, relationships, expectations
All necessary to the big picture
21 The drumbeat of being needed [13 Mar 2020]
Need to be needed but not overbearing
All within good measure, not for power
22 Rising above altruism [16 Mar 2020]
No separation “self” and “non-self” but self-control is good
Not “altruism” but functional equality, not ranking
23 “9 to 5” ain’t all bad [19 Mar 2020]
Excitement of solopreneurship, traditional job dignity
Industry, commerce, self-expression, gratitude
Fantasy or self-limiting extremes
24 See through a wooden fence [24 Mar 2020]
Seeing through the surface to the meaning that lies below
25 Redemption through education [27 Mar 2020]
Prison rehabilitation rather than suffering
Behavior replacement, redemption, recovery environment
26 Educate everybody? [31 Mar 2020]
Meeting social needs, no jealousy, include everything uplifting
Sufficient and fair means free education or equal wealth resources
27 Humans’ Needs = the F.I.S.H. [3 Apr 2020]
Hierarchy (urgency) of needs not money
Meaning = being useful to all, F.I.S.H.
Fundamental Ingredients Sustaining Humans
28 Worshipful attention from your children? [7 Apr 2020]
Leadership to respect or to forgive, set aside non-useful
Lau-Tzu “We have done this ourselves”
29 Are your toes stepped on? [10 Apr 2020] (figurative)
Risks in spontaneous helping—no avoidance of all misunderstandings
Gracious givers and receivers
30 Picture this [14 Apr 2020]
Meeting needs, not greed, 70% tax, peace around sufficiency
Open to innovation, that which is not yet
Importance of understanding, science, will
31 Should you resist? [17 Apr 2020]
Resisting bad ideas wastes strength; be for good, not protest against bad
Redirect, understand at the source, choose best approach
32 Where do you look? [21 Apr 2020]
Futility of negative sensationalism, let go of unhappiness
Direct to productivity, appreciate progress (encouragement), PMA
33 We go where we look [24 Apr 2020]
Not on evil but on improvement; stopped smoking; analyze what happened
Dispense with concepts sin and guilt
34 I will get them [28 Apr 2020]
We get what we want; we become what we think. Similar to mind-body duality.
Awareness=passive; Doing=active; mental=internal; physical=external
35 Martians or Covid19? [1 May 2019]
External threat brings people together. Collapse of familiar enables fresh start.
Opportunity to do better on rebuild
36 Silo worlds [5 May 2020]
New thoughts: separate job & housing so you keep both, one system for each
New views of property and distribution of consumption & production
37 Lose job – keep house [8 May 2020]
Cooperation does not destroy individuality or incentive
Creating and distributing can be balanced and maintained at macro level
38 The Ernstraudian Way [12 May 2020]
People enhance each other = jointly invent good outcomes instead of opposing
Begin where you are. Face the light. Proceed at your own pace. Bring someone with you.
39 I want this result, but … [15 May 2020]
Resolution of discomforts: examine, determine, weigh, refine; social mores that meet needs
Don’t try to change your spouse
40 Expect better? Always? [19 May 2020]
Expectation advantage: thinking it better; realistic is more likely t succeed
Expectation of self and of others
41 Think first! [22 May 2020]
Patience and logic about what to expect; unity better than compelled simplification
Long path, strength spread out over time
42 Resolution really means … [23 May 2020]
More details of problem solving with patience: it is how we approach decisions
Science does not dictate procedures; patient reasoning is necessary
School version added specific concerns for study
43 Price of safety? [25 May 2020]
Lifespan is not infinitely flexible; occupy the stage and move on
Cost-benefit analysis guides what to change and what to accept
44 Production for use [29 May 2020]
Ignorant pursuit of goals can devastate; positive attitudes have the most utility
Thoughtful deliberation outperforms painful threats or force.
45 Sharing the pain [2 Jun 2020]
Alleviate pain by sharing it—keeping firm footing and using it to help.
Only some burdens can be lifted. Grab the flag and run with it.
46 Difference is essential to meaning [5 Jun 2020]
Being identical prevents being individual. Value of uniqueness to the whole
Thesis + antithesis resolves to synthesis.
47 Made-for-you (MFY) [9 Jun 2020]
“Business in a box” worked for someone else. You are different; now is different.
Experience, including failures, leads to business skill.
School: Chick needs to break the shell; understanding why is more important than obeying.
48 Go after the king [12 Jun 2020]
Chess goal = checkmate, not capturing pieces; clarity and focus bring us to a goal.
Hypothetical measurements don’t constitute success.
School: Research lab, particle physics, and marketing review goals and act on them.
49 The real perspective on wealth [16 Jun 2020]
Material wealth is a flawed goal; customers buy improvement; humans’ needs drive human effort.
Private funds are better directed than public funds – no gridlock.
School: Grandstanding income disparity and platitudes do not help; society is a collaboration.
50 Dreaming failure [19 June 2020]
Mysterious dream allegory of life; awareness of others
Sharing the light is part of the journey
School: Dream succeeded in delivering a message; matching objects to metaphors
51 Duality in dreams [24 Jun 2020]
Three major life theories: reincarnation, resurrection, Ernstraudian – states of awareness / elevation
Others would have imparted their light to me if I were sensitive.
School: who is teaching whom; patronizing or appreciating others?
52 Definition of God [26 Jun 2020]
Godhood is a future state; pondering settings of limitless growth; applicable to atheism, too
Not fallen state; positive view sees the future Buddha in everyone; no terminal / ultimate state
School: collective subconscious; man-made God or God-made man = viewpoints to ponder
create own world and own heaven; individual progress through overlapping states
53 Let’s talk [30 Jun 2020]
The blog is for discussion, tool of growth—we enrich each other
Writing and action clarify understanding; try expressing what you do next
School: no deadlines, avoid overwhelm; concentrate on the doing, happiness follows
54 Anti-Christ? [3 July 2020]
Bludgeoned by Bible as weapon allegory; divorce over crucifix; survival requires forbearance
The “good book” has burdened Western Civilization. Make something good of religious beliefs.
School: Old Testament and Book of Mormon teach (1) depravity of fallen man (2) cleansing by slaughter (3) racism
(1) Be reverent (respect all people); (2) be vigilant against negative mindset; (3) find positive replacement
55 Self stands in the way [7 Jul 2020]
Resolved battle with mother; do adults learn reconciliation?
winning an argument or improving an outcome?
School: examples from politics, business, engineering for de-emphasizing self
56 If not self, who? [10 Jul 2020]
Private parties are more effective than government to meet Humans’ Needs universally
Humanity requires that wealth be applied as necessary to maximize the common good.
School: Good management is necessary to complex production and distribution.
It is required of private parties to volunteer their means to address the common needs.
57 We achieve what we want [14 Jul 2020]
Lighten up; view some dogmas and simplistic examples
demonstration, money, laws, autocracy, tax, disability, education, minimum wage, healthcare
School: applying the lesson to healthcare
accept health as the goal; discussion about getting there
58 Why try to be happy? [17 Jul 2020]
Happiness journey, not destination; indirect, like peripheral vision;
largely determined by expectations
School: links to more external references and nine previous blog articles
likening to vigorous exercise: happiness is the desired byproduct of work
59 Let freedom ring [21 July 2020]
Ernstraudian way; uncomfortable differences; private more directly, effectively, and personally applied than government;
grab the flag and run; desire to be needed, controlling element
School: Private or public contains support and control, private wealth, relationships
who is controlling whom; price of liberty is eternal vigilance
60 Achieve anything together? [24 Jul 2020]
Principle of fairness; social contract; stability; exceptions; faulty majority or inconvenient minority
election goes wrong? rights, sincerity
School: historical positions, puzzles to consider but not consider solved
right not to be bound by decision? list of examples
61 You become what you eat [28 Jul 2020]
Independent of physical being; define eternal life
what you eat becomes you; god made man—man made god
School: A Poem about Generation – homelessness, creation for utility, spiritual elements
see opposite of home, creating life of food substances, learning prerequisites
62 Eternal Life [31 Jul 2020]
Identity is unique, before and after this visible world.
key question of immortality – one magic word
School: Stories from immortals eating mortal food to atomic structure and vibrations
best possible human experience you want to continue forever
63 Be sad yesterday [4 Aug 2020]
No happiness if no sadness (contrast); two kinds of sadness
being sad we failed motivates not failing; tomorrow is better
School: There is a human note, an allowed present sadness.
Our happiness shares in the sadness of others.
64 Please disagree [7 Aug 2020]
Five steps: energy goes down in the middle; cooperation descends
Benefits go down as cooperation goes down
School: Examples that distinguish agreement from disagreement
WHY disagree? strong metaphor
65 Is it a commandment? [11 Aug 2020]
Request v order; need commandments? Question God’s intent?
Nicer term “best way”; would we disobey God’s suggestion?
School: slothful servant is commanded; discipline children, not handicap
Internalize the why = voluntary commitment
66 Teach me! [14 Aug 20]
Safe to disagree here; students’ effect on teacher
Handle difference with civility; 4 methods collect feedback
67 Teaching is not dispensing [18 Aug 20]
LIFT convention by Mirasee, I studied the teacher – teacher leads by doing
It is about the students, not the teacher
68 Do we measure? [21 Aug 20]
Go together; reader participation gives direction to our group
About progress, not money; this is not about popularity of topics
69 Shoes to fill [25 Aug 2020]
WFMT Studs Terkel; WBEZ Jerome McDonnell; thought leaders were giants
We are necessary to carry on the tradition; sharing is not bragging
70 They don’t fit [28 Aug 2020]
Realistic: professor used real-world homework, not nicely fitted examples
Science expands by investigating what does not fit;
Forbearance; yesterday’s absurdity might be tomorrow’s truth
71 Breaks my heart – competition [1 Sep 2020]
Blending self with others is collaboration toward mutually beneficial goals
Good competition builds all parties; selfish competition hurts progress
All humans = one unitary organism; disappearance of go-it-alone
72 More Mind Games [4 Sep 2020]
Eternal existence, not just physical resurrection; analysis to unseen (energy/matter)
Key is sentience; do not limit to present imagination
Stimulate new thinking, make room for tolerance (civil discourse)
73 Intelligence over Obstacles [8 Sep 2020]
Others ahead of self is collective advancement, aggregation from local to cosmic
We spend energy retreating into introspection, reap new strength
Sometimes we forgive, cannot retreat; even crows can benefit other individuals
74 Supply Pipe [11 Sep 2020]
View the world as the combination of production and consumption; view both globally
F.I.S.H. & Millennium Development Goals; on macro level there is enough
Direct resources to the fundamental needs -> quality of life; no throw-away people
75 Who will tie the bell? [15 Sep 2020]
Whose resources? Self as first contributor. Interbeing poem loosens self-other distinction
Think “we” as the new social order; cooperation is winning; we use our resources
Higher orders are attained when we do not put our own benefits first.
76 Do not protest; do! [18 Sep 2020]
We can produce enough for everyone to be well fed. That obligates us morally to do so.
Self over others is inhumane – job shortage harmfully undercuts wages
The law does not supply happiness – voluntary good deeds lead to happiness
Sub-minimum-wage jobs disappear because we create better jobs.
77 Do not kill unbelievers [22 Sep 2020]
When unbelief is a good thing – boasting is veneer over doubt — neither true nor false
biblical content worthy of unbelief – tolerate unbelievers – welcome imagination
unbelievers must tolerate those who do not believe them
78 Why are you not effective? [25 Sep 2020]
Starting a fight does not garner favors. You are effective when positive.
Disagreeing by fighting is ineffective. Good political paths lead to an outcome.
Losing the vote is occasion to accommodate and assist someone else’s path.
Replace impasse by finding agreement; success comes from “we believe.”
79 How this is done [29 Sep 2020]
We get self out of the way and then apply everything we have to what everyone needs.
“Losing” the election merely changes our route to positive results.
Cooperation results from giving support, not from screaming “ignoramus.”
80 The power is in you [2 Oct 2020]
Outlook, PMA empower us to realize what could be.
Fighting does not make the country beautiful. We make it look good.
Imperfection–do we find fault, or do we improve the object of attention?
81 Demographics and history [6 Oct 2020]
Discussing slave masters, foreign conquerors, exploited labor turned voter, demographic mobility
American colonization and immigration into America – human rights – Switzerland, Russia
American neighborhood and bongo drums – micro level – object of patriotism
82 Human reallocation [9 Oct 2020]
Efficiency and engineering equip us to produce more and work less.
Frugality and skills obsolescence also reduce the labor need.
We adapt to change and redirect individual labor appropriately.
83 I’m only one, but [13 Oct 2020]
Realize = aware + achieve; one ant is small but not discardable
If the project appears too big, rejoice that you are aware.
Therefore it takes all of us (“ants”)
Avoid one universal overall clearing house; we all see different aspects
Many roads to Dr. King’s mountaintop; our diversity covers the ground.
84 Is there evil? [16 Oct 2020]
Light and sound are perceptions: what you make of it
Evil world is not a creation; it disappears when light goes on.
Buddhism suffering = “not highest state of being”
Omit long list of ills in the world; Dr. Schweitzer and ice cream cone
85 Is it material? [20 Oct 2020]
Materialism is not material to happiness. Satisfaction is reaching an expectation.
Decide right goals; external circumstances. Mental states are material.
Notre Dame, twin towers; personal relationships over physical objects
Foundation: how we share our circumstances and efforts.
86 Nervous about being relaxed [23 Oct 2020]
To want the cure, you must have the problem. Vendors see to that!
Health, Religion, Business – in EACH of these, we have
Promise (the good), Problem (the bad) and Program (my resolution)
Three stories this time, the paradox = cure makes it worse