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Grocery product mislabeling handled amicably with merchant, not law enforcement
Constructive outcome: self-monitoring
– > Resolution of differences; responsive merchants
Promotion of permanent refugee settlements for the benefit of refugees and the host country Mexico
Significant research required before implementation
Positive Mental Attitude (PMA) leads to choosing happiness
Aristotle purpose of life
Attitude brings altitude, contagious happiness
Playground religious contests = combative ignorance
Admonition: adults should seek positive exercises
Car turns right or left to stay on the road
Flexibility, progress is neither unique nor linear
Patience; long path to right goal (Paul inside every Saul)
Redemption, selfishness disappears by atrophy
Positive relationships among empathetic people
Diversity, pluralism over polarization (as in two-party system)
Shortcomings (narrowness) of one-party system
Rebellion against party is less damaging than rebellion against state
Promoting civility and balancing, third parties without thrown away votes
Ranked Choice Voting (RCV) uses highest viable choice if first choice loses
(1) no wasted votes
(2) no runoffs
(3) more official than popular polls, very influential
Picnic location story; cheating tax collector story; sports brackets
Sampling theory simplifies getting nuanced results
Suggested counting formula
Argument against impulse buying; no buyer’s remorse
Honorable informative advertising; buy for intended use
Musings: human role on life’s stage; quality over quantity
Short socializing examples threaded by the happy person
Perceive the “happy world” — contagious.
Create better world thoughtfully in unity, not unanimity
“Puff talk” myths debunked,
No need to be separatist to avoid fighting; understand and uplift
Hard-wired for cooperation, social value stronger than self-interest
Geriatric suicide (not needed), struggling father, single mom examples of others ahead of self
Strength from will, not resistance – power of empathy
Needed for better future, not for overindulgence or bossing others
Restorative justice = reconstruction and healing
Restraint rather than greed, need for sharing production and consumption,
Measuring-increasing production model
What to measure, realistic expectations, perceptions
Genuine healing environment, not gloss-over
Useful statistics, beauty of the good
Beautiful world context: perspective, relationships, expectations
All necessary to the big picture
Need to be needed but not overbearing
All within good measure, not for power
No separation “self” and “non-self” but self-control is good
Not “altruism” but functional equality, not ranking
Excitement of solopreneurship, traditional job dignity
Industry, commerce, self-expression, gratitude
Fantasy or self-limiting extremes
Seeing through the surface to the meaning that lies below
Prison rehabilitation rather than suffering
Behavior replacement, redemption, recovery environment
Meeting social needs, no jealousy, include everything uplifting
Sufficient and fair means free education or equal wealth resources
Hierarchy (urgency) of needs not money
Meaning = being useful to all, F.I.S.H.
Fundamental Ingredients Sustaining Humans
Leadership to respect or to forgive, set aside non-useful
Lau-Tzu “We have done this ourselves”
Risks in spontaneous helping—no avoidance of all misunderstandings
Gracious givers and receivers
Meeting needs, not greed, 70% tax, peace around sufficiency
Open to innovation, that which is not yet
Importance of understanding, science, will
Resisting bad ideas wastes strength; be for good, not protest against bad
Redirect, understand at the source, choose best approach
Futility of negative sensationalism, let go of unhappiness
Direct to productivity, appreciate progress (encouragement), PMA
Not on evil but on improvement; stopped smoking; analyze what happened
Dispense with concepts sin and guilt
We get what we want; we become what we think. Similar to mind-body duality.
Awareness=passive; Doing=active; mental=internal; physical=external
External threat brings people together. Collapse of familiar enables fresh start.
Opportunity to do better on rebuild
New thoughts: separate job & housing so you keep both, one system for each
New views of property and distribution of consumption & production
Cooperation does not destroy individuality or incentive
Creating and distributing can be balanced and maintained at macro level
People enhance each other = jointly invent good outcomes instead of opposing
Begin where you are. Face the light. Proceed at your own pace. Bring someone with you.
Resolution of discomforts: examine, determine, weigh, refine; social mores that meet needs
Don’t try to change your spouse
Expectation advantage: thinking it better; realistic is more likely t succeed
Expectation of self and of others
Patience and logic about what to expect; unity better than compelled simplification
Long path, strength spread out over time
More details of problem solving with patience: it is how we approach decisions
Science does not dictate procedures; patient reasoning is necessary
School version added specific concerns for study
Lifespan is not infinitely flexible; occupy the stage and move on
Cost-benefit analysis guides what to change and what to accept
Ignorant pursuit of goals can devastate; positive attitudes have the most utility
Thoughtful deliberation outperforms painful threats or force.
Alleviate pain by sharing it—keeping firm footing and using it to help.
Only some burdens can be lifted. Grab the flag and run with it.
Being identical prevents being individual. Value of uniqueness to the whole
Thesis + antithesis resolves to synthesis.
“Business in a box” worked for someone else. You are different; now is different.
Experience, including failures, leads to business skill.
Chick needs to break the shell; understanding why is more important than obeying.
Chess goal = checkmate, not capturing pieces; clarity and focus bring us to a goal.
Hypothetical measurements don’t constitute success.
Research lab, particle physics, and marketing review goals and act on them.
Material wealth is a flawed goal; customers buy improvement; humans’ needs drive human effort.
Private funds are better directed than public funds – no gridlock.
Grandstanding income disparity and platitudes do not help; society is a collaboration.
Mysterious dream allegory of life; awareness of others
Sharing the light is part of the journey
Dream succeeded in delivering a message; matching objects to metaphors
Three major life theories: reincarnation, resurrection, Ernstraudian – states of awareness / elevation
Others would have imparted their light to me if I were sensitive.
who is teaching whom; patronizing or appreciating others?
Godhood is a future state; pondering settings of limitless growth; applicable to atheism, too
Not fallen state; positive view sees the future Buddha in everyone; no terminal / ultimate state
collective subconscious; man-made God or God-made man = viewpoints to ponder
create own world and own heaven; individual progress through overlapping states
The blog is for discussion, tool of growth—we enrich each other
Writing and action clarify understanding; try expressing what you do next
no deadlines, avoid overwhelm; concentrate on the doing, happiness follows
Bludgeoned by Bible as weapon allegory; divorce over crucifix; survival requires forbearance
The “good book” has burdened Western Civilization. Make something good of religious beliefs.
Old Testament and Book of Mormon teach (1) depravity of fallen man (2) cleansing by slaughter (3) racism
(1) Be reverent (respect all people); (2) be vigilant against negative mindset; (3) find positive replacement
Resolved battle with mother; do adults learn reconciliation?
winning an argument or improving an outcome?
examples from politics, business, engineering for de-emphasizing self
Private parties are more effective than government to meet Humans’ Needs universally
Humanity requires that wealth be applied as necessary to maximize the common good.
Good management is necessary to complex production and distribution.
It is required of private parties to volunteer their means to address the common needs.
Lighten up; view some dogmas and simplistic examples
demonstration, money, laws, autocracy, tax, disability, education, minimum wage, healthcare
applying the lesson to healthcare
accept health as the goal; discussion about getting there
Happiness journey, not destination; indirect, like peripheral vision;
largely determined by expectations
links to more external references and nine previous blog articles
likening to vigorous exercise: happiness is the desired byproduct of work
Ernstraudian way; uncomfortable differences; private more directly, effectively, and personally applied than government;
grab the flag and run; desire to be needed, controlling element
Private or public contains support and control, private wealth, relationships
who is controlling whom; price of liberty is eternal vigilance
Principle of fairness; social contract; stability; exceptions; faulty majority or inconvenient minority
election goes wrong? rights, sincerity
historical positions, puzzles to consider but not consider solved
right not to be bound by decision? list of examples
Independent of physical being; define eternal life
what you eat becomes you; god made man—man made god
A Poem about Generation – homelessness, creation for utility, spiritual elements
see opposite of home, creating life of food substances, learning prerequisites
Identity is unique, before and after this visible world.
key question of immortality – one magic word
Stories from immortals eating mortal food to atomic structure and vibrations
best possible human experience you want to continue forever
No happiness if no sadness (contrast); two kinds of sadness
being sad we failed motivates not failing; tomorrow is better
There is a human note, an allowed present sadness.
Our happiness shares in the sadness of others.
Five steps: energy goes down in the middle; cooperation descends
Benefits go down as cooperation goes down
Examples that distinguish agreement from disagreement
WHY disagree? strong metaphor
Request v order; need commandments? Question God’s intent?
Nicer term “best way”; would we disobey God’s suggestion?
slothful servant is commanded; discipline children, not handicap
Internalize the why = voluntary commitment
Safe to disagree here; students’ effect on teacher
Handle difference with civility; 4 methods collect feedback
LIFT convention by Mirasee, I studied the teacher – teacher leads by doing
It is about the students, not the teacher
Go together; reader participation gives direction to our group
About progress, not money; this is not about popularity of topics
WFMT Studs Terkel; WBEZ Jerome McDonnell; thought leaders were giants
We are necessary to carry on the tradition; sharing is not bragging
Realistic: professor used real-world homework, not nicely fitted examples
Science expands by investigating what does not fit;
Forbearance; yesterday’s absurdity might be tomorrow’s truth
Blending self with others is collaboration toward mutually beneficial goals
Good competition builds all parties; selfish competition hurts progress
All humans = one unitary organism; disappearance of go-it-alone
Eternal existence, not just physical resurrection; analysis to unseen (energy/matter)
Key is sentience; do not limit to present imagination
Stimulate new thinking, make room for tolerance (civil discourse)
Others ahead of self is collective advancement, aggregation from local to cosmic
We spend energy retreating into introspection, reap new strength
Sometimes we forgive, cannot retreat; even crows can benefit other individuals
View the world as the combination of production and consumption; view both globally
F.I.S.H. & Millennium Development Goals; on macro level there is enough
Direct resources to the fundamental needs -> quality of life; no throw-away people
Whose resources? Self as first contributor. Interbeing poem loosens self-other distinction
Think “we” as the new social order; cooperation is winning; we use our resources
Higher orders are attained when we do not put our own benefits first.
We can produce enough for everyone to be well fed. That obligates us morally to do so.
Self over others is inhumane – job shortage harmfully undercuts wages
The law does not supply happiness – voluntary good deeds lead to happiness
Sub-minimum-wage jobs disappear because we create better jobs.
When unbelief is a good thing – boasting is veneer over doubt — neither true nor false
biblical content worthy of unbelief – tolerate unbelievers – welcome imagination
unbelievers must tolerate those who do not believe them
Starting a fight does not garner favors. You are effective when positive.
Disagreeing by fighting is ineffective. Good political paths lead to an outcome.
Losing the vote is occasion to accommodate and assist someone else’s path.
Replace impasse by finding agreement; success comes from “we believe.”
We get self out of the way and then apply everything we have to what everyone needs.
“Losing” the election merely changes our route to positive results.
Cooperation results from giving support, not from screaming “ignoramus.”
Outlook, PMA empower us to realize what could be.
Fighting does not make the country beautiful. We make it look good.
Imperfection–do we find fault, or do we improve the object of attention?
Discussing slave masters, foreign conquerors, exploited labor turned voter, demographic mobility
American colonization and immigration into America – human rights – Switzerland, Russia
American neighborhood and bongo drums – micro level – object of patriotism
Efficiency and engineering equip us to produce more and work less.
Frugality and skills obsolescence also reduce the labor need.
We adapt to change and redirect individual labor appropriately.
Realize = aware + achieve; one ant is small but not discardable
If the project appears too big, rejoice that you are aware.
Therefore it takes all of us (“ants”)
Avoid one universal overall clearing house; we all see different aspects
Many roads to Dr. King’s mountaintop; our diversity covers the ground.
Light and sound are perceptions: what you make of it
Evil world is not a creation; it disappears when light goes on.
Buddhism suffering = “not highest state of being”
Omit long list of ills in the world; Dr. Schweitzer and ice cream cone
Materialism is not material to happiness. Satisfaction is reaching an expectation.
Decide right goals; external circumstances. Mental states are material.
Notre Dame, twin towers; personal relationships over physical objects
Foundation: how we share our circumstances and efforts.
To want the cure, you must have the problem. Vendors see to that!
Health, Religion, Business – in EACH of these, we have
Promise (the good), Problem (the bad) and Program (my resolution)
Three stories this time, the paradox = cure makes it worse
Telling each other what to do: accepted in the family and close social circles
Overboard in Germany -> Hitler
Overboard in America -> slavery, nuclear weapons, torture, capital punishment
We Germans and we Americans find redemption in facing the past and improving on it.
Here a favorite philosophy is preciously brought to us by Dennis the Menace!
Birth is a forgetting – death is also; both are ascending to something new, not descending.
No fall; Near-death experiences fit subject’s expectations; parallel or sequential progress
Why restart: no freshman experiences = no graduations
Resurrected to a higher order – long learning period like the one after birth.
Progress in moon exploration, interstate highway system, containerized shipping
Change disadvantages somebody. There is a price of progress.
Duty of those who benefit is to spread their advantage and alleviate that suffering.
We cherish uniqueness, expressing diversity. Teamwork accomplishes more.
Value is the gift you give; sufficiency; responsibility for distribution
Natural resources are not private property (including land)
Grab the flag: individual initiative; channel coming generations (spread your unselfishness)
Only you alone? OK, meditation is good. However, worth arises through relationships.
Somebody else is the other half. Strange bedfellows.
Learn outgoing kindness to your other half.
At the edge of the universe, what is on the other side? We learn space, then time, then relativity.
Broken bottlenecks don’t break reality, they lead us to learning more about reality.
Similarly, rising above conventional spiritual thinking takes us to the promised land.
We stretched to infinity. Now we progress to a higher level—yes, there is something higher than infinity. The “no end” game itself is infinite.
Enjoying Brussel sprouts raw is one reverent return to nature. Native American tradition developed that capacity over the centuries. We lose it when we are brainwashed with materialism. Good things satisfy; bad things intensify craving. Overindulgence messes up our social order.
We humans respond to each other. You have great influence over how people respond to you. One word in article 95 opens world peace to you if you apply it right. The phrase “fight for” is obsolete because there is a better way to get what you want.
Reliability is a satisfaction; human interaction is greater satisfaction; business is people.
Your ideal customer is you. The sharing of interest brings vendor and customer together.
Individuality matters; voluntary aspiration is stronger than assignment.
It matters to understand ourselves, other people, and our relationships.
We are bound to familiar behavior patterns. Poor and rich alike have self-limiting beliefs which stand in the way of realizing their potentials.
Sometimes wealth facilitates being clueless, without street smarts.
Understanding removes barriers, opens communication, and meets Humans’ Needs.
Rising generation in regard to education, to wealth—no self-sufficiency
Prepare the way for others, the (macro) global family has adequate resources
What is above basic needs, you are holding for somebody else
Do you want to go to the beautiful next stage of human progress? Not limited by any theology, what would you like next? Don’t just long for relief from something unpleasant. Instead, increase what is pleasant. Too much rest is boring. Anticipation and realization keep us alive—forever!
This article uses some teachings of W. Edwards Deming in a heaven allegory. The power of love applies directly to the goal of having every person productive in a happy place. We should not expect this heaven to appear instantaneously in this life or the next. It is worth our labor.
Do you control your children? Do you feel manipulated by them? The learning relationship is bidirectional: each side teaches the other, learns from the other, learns how the other teaches and learns how the other learns. Effective teaching is enduring, including repeating, accumulating, spiraling, distributing, and passing of time. Education is the change that takes place in life, creating the better world.
Necessity of awareness | right desire | genuine sharing | meet needs properly, walk the walk
The path succeeds when sensitivity and understanding implement vision.
Do you think abundantly? Do you live abundantly? Do you give abundantly? As God does? As humanists do? What does all that mean?
Value is enduring, not artificial scarcity to raise price. || Empathy and equality are not egalitarian (equal opportunity).
The abundant mindset is not material wealth, it is willingness to cooperate.
Protestors extensively use the wrong tool because they have inadequate preparation and cannot teach the detailed path. Asserting is not educating. The better goal is not to pass a law; it is to improve behavior. Helping the poor and needy requires unselfish collaboration at the personal level.
Can we treat employees at least as well as we treat cows? Farmers learn to keep their animals healthy. We as a society owe at least that much to every human on the planet—and we are capable of doing it much more thoroughly than we do now. We are all better off if every laborer is cared for.
Rich and super-rich people generally mean to do well. As a group, they are not adequately covering the above need. Since THEY are the ones with the resources, THEY have the responsibility to administer them effectively. It is important for us to be respectful of millionaires (support their efforts to do right), while they do well to respect the choices of us common folk, the beneficiaries—after all, we don’t feed cows sawdust!
Are you ready for an upbeat, witty observation of happiness? Today’s article is not scolding anyone for anything. It is celebrating our mutual existence and thanking you for joining me here. From a self-centered infant who tends to be a self-centered adult comes a sincere appreciation of you, the reader. My story encourages you to positive relationships within the human family, where you enjoy the oneness of the many.
Growing the future includes laying the old behind when it holds us back. Today we replace a big negative roadblock with a happier, more productive mindset. The beacon points to better life based on good example and positive expectations.
108 Is the passage of time progress? [8 Jan 2021] DONOR
Mind games help us stretch our thinking—out of complacency and pat answers. Today we study time, space, and life forms above humans. The progress of the individual is different from the progress of the species and there is ever increasing complexity.
The article may be a bit poetic. At the end, we feel small enough to think that we do not know it all.
109 On the threshold of wealth [12 Jan 2021] DONOR
The country’s pain is not a person. It is anger. The pain will endure as long as the anger. Attempting to get even and to override others is scripted discord. Triumph over the other expresses selfishness, not completeness. Every resetting of course provides some degree of fresh start. It was so beautifully expressed in George H. W. Bush’s emphasis on the “kinder, gentler America.” With a dramatic personnel change underway, we have the perfect moment to institute that more divine order. Our joy lies in being the new America where we sincerely care about the least of these (our neighbors).
110 How to enjoy Ernstraudian wealth [15 Jan 2021] DONOR
Continuing Tuesday’s discussion, we look at constructive tolerant action. Pacifism is anything but passive; happiness is sharing. Love reaps peace in a better society. Putting others ahead of self is the blessing I aim to bring to my country’s people. Parents who control their children make themselves unhappy. Apply that to government!
Until my persuasion prevails, it is my duty to live peacefully in a country that does not live up to my standards. It is not my place to overthrow the government of the country when it offends me. Let’s get along peacefully with each other.
111 The hero who found beauty in us [19 Jan 2021] DONOR
New arrivals will find here what they found in their previous neighborhoods—unless they expect to finding better. The worlds we find depend on what we seek. Dr. King would have us find the promised land by creating it from within. I never met him in person, but he is my friend.
We have the opportunity, not a burden, to find the good. The mountaintop provides positive perspective. When I hear this hero speak, my heart beats quicker and my eyes tear up. Enjoy today’s tribute.