For Others blog
The playground of sharing our joy
1 A polite correction [12 Jan 2019 / 15
Grocery product mislabeling handled
amicably with merchant, not law enforcement--Constructive
outcome: self-monitoring--Resolution of differences; responsive
2 The promised land: Mexico [9 Mar
Promotion of permanent
refugee settlements for the benefit of refugees and the host
--Significant research required before implementation
3 Healthy happy lucky you [31 Oct
Positive Mental Attitude (PMA) leads to
--Aristotle purpose of life
--Attitude brings altitude, contagious happiness
contests = combative ignorance
Admonition: adults should seek positive exercises
Car turns right or left to stay on the
Flexibility, progress is neither unique nor linear
6 Let's be (positively) real [21 Nov
Patience; long path to
right goal (Paul inside every Saul)
Redemption, selfishness disappears by atrophy
7 Single-party state? [29 Nov 2019]
among empathetic people
Diversity, pluralism over polarization (as in two-party system)
Shortcomings (narrowness) of one-party system
Rebellion against party is less damaging than rebellion against
8 Ranked Choice Voting (Instant Runoff) [3
Promote civility and
give voice to minorities (third parties) without throwing away votes
Ranked Choice Voting (RCV) counts the ballot for the highest viable choice if the first
choice on a ballot does not get the most votes. If your first choice cannot win, your second choice gets the vote and so on.
(1) no wasted votes
(2) no runoffs
(3) more official than popular polls, very influential
9 Counting votes -- RCV [6 Dec 2019]
Picnic location story; cheating tax
collector story; sports brackets
Sampling theory simplifies getting nuanced results
Suggested counting formula
10 How to buy successfully [11 Dec
Argument against impulse buying; no
Honorable informative advertising; buy for intended use
11 How to evade discouragement [23 Dec
Musings: human role on life's stage;
quality over quantity
12 Discover your happy [11 Feb
Short socializing examples threaded by the happy person
Perceive the "happy
world" -- contagious.
13 You create your own world [14 Feb
Create better world
thoughtfully in unity, not unanimity
"Puff talk" myths debunked.
No need to
be separatist to avoid fighting; understand and uplift
cooperation, social value stronger than self-interest
Geriatric suicide (not needed), struggling
father, single mom examples of others ahead of self
Strength from will, not resistance--power of empathy
16 So, what is needed? [24 Feb
Needed for better future,
not for overindulgence or bossing others
Restorative justice = reconstruction and healing
17 Being for (and aware of) others [28 Feb
Restraint rather than
greed, need for sharing production and consumption,
18 When better does not mean more [3 Mar
Measuring-increasing production model
What to measure, realistic expectations,
19 Engulfed in beauty [5 Mar 2020]
Genuine healing environment, not gloss-over
statistics, beauty of the good
20 What is the big picture? [9 Mar
Beautiful world context:
perspective, relationships, expectations
All necessary to the big picture
21 The drumbeat of being needed [13 Mar
Need to be needed but not
All within good measure, not for power
22 Rising above altruism [16 Mar
No separation “self” and
“non-self” but self-control is good
Not “altruism” but functional equality, not ranking
23 “9 to 5” ain’t all bad [19 Mar
solopreneurship, traditional job dignity
Industry, commerce, self-expression, gratitude
Fantasy or self-limiting extremes
24 See through a wooden fence [24 Mar 2020]
Seeing through the surface to the meaning that
25 Redemption through education [27 Mar
Prison rehabilitation rather than suffering
Behavior replacement, redemption, recovery environment
26 Educate everybody? [31 Mar 2020]
Meeting social needs, no
jealousy, include everything uplifting
Sufficient and fair means free education or equal
27 Humans' Needs = the F.I.S.H. [3 Apr
Hierarchy (urgency) of needs not money
Meaning = being useful to all, F.I.S.H.
28 Worshipful attention from your children? [7 Apr 2020]
Leadership to respect or
to forgive, set aside non-useful
Lau-Tzu "We have done this
29 Are your toes stepped on? [10 Apr
Risks in spontaneous helping--no
avoidance of all misunderstandings
Gracious givers and receivers
Meeting needs, not greed, 70% tax, peace
Open to innovation, that which is not yet
Importance of understanding, science, will
31 Should you resist? [17 Apr 2020]
Resisting bad ideas
wastes strength; be for good, not protest against bad
Redirect, understand at the source, choose best
32 Where do you look? [21 Apr 2020]
Futility of negative sensationalism, let go of unhappiness
Direct to productivity, appreciate progress (encouragement), PMA
33 We go where we look [24 Apr
Not on evil but on improvement; stopped
smoking; analyze what happened
Dispense with concepts sin and guilt
We get what we want; we
become what we think. Similar to mind-body duality.
Awareness=passive; Doing=active; mental=internal;
35 Martians or Covid19? [1 May
External threat brings people together.
Collapse of familiar enables fresh start.
Opportunity to do better on rebuild
New thoughts: separate job & housing
so you keep both, one system for each
New views of property and distribution of consumption &
37 Lose job -- keep house [8 May
Cooperation does not
destroy individuality or incentive
Creating and distributing can be balanced and
maintained at macro level
38 The Ernstraudian Way [12 May
People enhance each other = jointly
invent good outcomes instead of opposing
Begin where you are. Face the light. Proceed at your own pace.
Bring someone with you.
39 I want this result, but … [15 May
discomforts: examine, determine, weigh, refine; social mores that
Don't try to change your spouse
40 Expect better? Always? [19 May
Expectation advantage: thinking it
better; realistic is more likely to succeed
Expectation of self and of others
Patience and logic about what to expect;
unity better than compelled simplification
Long path, strength spread out over time
42 Resolution really means … [23 May 2020]
More details of problem solving with
patience: it is how we approach decisions
Science does not
dictate procedures; patient reasoning is necessary
School version added
specific concerns for study
Lifespan is not
infinitely flexible; occupy the stage and move on
Cost-benefit analysis guides what to change and what to
44 Production for use [29 May 2020]
Ignorant pursuit of goals
can devastate; positive attitudes have the most utility
Thoughtful deliberation outperforms painful threats or
45 Sharing the pain [2 Jun 2020]
Alleviate pain by sharing it—keeping firm
footing and using it to help.
Only some burdens can
be lifted. Grab the flag and run with it.
46 Difference is essential to meaning [5 Jun 2020]
Being identical prevents being
individual. Value of uniqueness to the whole
Thesis + antithesis
resolves to synthesis.
47 Made-for-you (MFY) [9 Jun 2020]
“Business in a box”
worked for someone else. You are different; now is
Experience, including failures, leads to business skill.
Chick needs to break the shell; understanding why
is more important than obeying.
48 Go after the king [12 Jun 2020]
Chess goal = checkmate, not capturing
pieces; clarity and focus bring us to a goal.
measurements don’t constitute success.
Research lab, particle physics, and marketing review goals and
act on them.
49 The real perspective on wealth [16 Jun 2020]
Material wealth is a
flawed goal; customers buy improvement; humans’ needs drive human
Private funds are better directed than public
funds – no gridlock.
Grandstanding income disparity and platitudes do
not help; society is a collaboration.
Mysterious dream allegory of life;
awareness of others
Sharing the light is
part of the journey
Dream succeeded in delivering a message; matching objects to
51 Duality in dreams [24 Jun 2020]
Three major life theories: reincarnation,
resurrection, Ernstraudian – states of awareness / elevation
Others would have
imparted their light to me if I were sensitive.
who is teaching whom; patronizing or appreciating others?
52 Definition of God [26 Jun 2020]
Godhood is a future
state; pondering settings of limitless growth; applicable to
fallen state; positive view sees the future Buddha in everyone;
no terminal / ultimate state
collective subconscious; man-made God or God-made
man = viewpoints to ponder
own world and own heaven; individual progress through overlapping
The blog is for
discussion, tool of growth—we enrich each other
Writing and action clarify understanding; try expressing what you
no deadlines, avoid overwhelm; concentrate on the
doing, happiness follows
Bludgeoned by Bible as
weapon allegory; divorce over crucifix; survival requires
The “good book” has burdened Western Civilization. Make
something good of religious beliefs.
Old Testament and Book of Mormon teach (1)
depravity of fallen man (2) cleansing by slaughter (3)
reverent (respect all people); (2) be vigilant against negative
mindset; (3) find positive replacement
55 Self stands in the way [7 Jul 2020]
Resolved battle with
mother; do adults learn reconciliation?
winning an argument or improving an outcome?
examples from politics, business, engineering for
56 If not self, who? [10 Jul 2020]
Private parties are more
effective than government to meet Humans’ Needs
Humanity requires that wealth be applied as necessary to
maximize the common good.
Good management is necessary to complex
production and distribution.
required of private parties to volunteer their means to address
the common needs.
57 We achieve what we want [14 Jul 2020]
Lighten up; view some
dogmas and simplistic examples
demonstration, money, laws, autocracy, tax, disability,
education, minimum wage, healthcare
applying the lesson to healthcare
health as the goal; discussion about getting there
58 Why try to be happy? [17 Jul 2020]
journey, not destination; indirect, like peripheral
largely determined by expectations
links to more external references
and nine previous blog articles
likening to vigorous exercise: happiness is the desired byproduct
Ernstraudian way; uncomfortable differences;
private more directly, effectively, and personally applied than
grab the flag and run; desire to be needed, controlling
Private or public contains
support and control, private wealth, relationships
who is controlling whom; price of liberty is eternal
60 Achieve anything together?
[24 Jul 2020]
Principle of fairness;
social contract; stability; exceptions; faulty majority or
election goes wrong? rights, sincerity
historical positions, puzzles to consider but not consider solved
right not to be bound
by decision? list of examples
61 You become what you eat [28 Jul 2020]
Independent of physical
being; define eternal life
you eat becomes you; god made man—man made god
A Poem about Generation – homelessness, creation
for utility, spiritual elements
opposite of home, creating life of food substances, learning
Identity is unique,
before and after this visible world.
question of immortality – one magic word
Stories from immortals eating mortal food to
atomic structure and vibrations
possible human experience you want to continue forever
63 Be sad yesterday [4 Aug 2020]
No happiness if no
sadness (contrast); two kinds of sadness
sad we failed motivates not failing; tomorrow is better
There is a human note, an allowed present
happiness shares in the sadness of others.
64 Please disagree [7 Aug 2020]
Five steps: energy goes
down in the middle; cooperation descends
Benefits go down as cooperation goes down
Examples that distinguish agreement from
disagree? strong metaphor
65 Is it a commandment? [11 Aug 2020]
Request v order; need
commandments? Question God’s intent?
term “best way”; would we disobey God’s suggestion?
slothful servant is commanded; discipline
children, not handicap
Internalize the why = voluntary commitment
Safe to disagree here; students’ effect on teacher
difference with civility; 4 methods collect feedback
67 Teaching is not dispensing [18 Aug 2020]
LIFT convention by
Mirasee, I studied the teacher – teacher leads by doing
about the students, not the teacher
Go together; reader
participation gives direction to our group
progress, not money; this is not about popularity of
WFMT Studs Terkel; WBEZ Jerome McDonnell;
thought leaders were giants
We are necessary to
carry on the tradition; sharing is not bragging
Realistic: professor used real-world
homework, not nicely fitted examples
Science expands by
investigating what does not fit;
Forbearance; yesterday’s absurdity might be tomorrow’s truth
71 Breaks my heart – competition [1 Sep 2020]
Blending self with others is
collaboration toward mutually beneficial goals
builds all parties; selfish competition hurts progress
All humans = one
unitary organism; disappearance of go-it-alone
72 More Mind Games [4 Sep 2020]
Eternal existence, not just physical
resurrection; analysis to unseen (energy/matter)
Key is sentience; do
not limit to present imagination
thinking, make room for tolerance (civil discourse)
73 Intelligence over Obstacles [8 Sep 2020]
Others ahead of self is collective
advancement, aggregation from local to cosmic
We spend energy
retreating into introspection, reap new strength
Sometimes we forgive,
cannot retreat; even crows can benefit other individuals
View the world as the combination of
production and consumption; view both globally
Millennium Development Goals; on macro level there is
Direct resources to
the fundamental needs -> quality of life; no throw-away
75 Who will tie the bell? [15 Sep 2020]
Whose resources? Self as first
contributor. Interbeing poem loosens self-other
Think “we” as the new
social order; cooperation is winning; we use our resources
Higher orders are
attained when we do not put our own benefits first.
76 Do not protest; do! [18 Sep 2020]
We can produce
enough for everyone to be well fed. That obligates us morally to
over others is inhumane – job shortage harmfully undercuts
law does not supply happiness – voluntary good deeds lead to
Sub-minimum-wage jobs disappear because we create better
77 Do not kill unbelievers [22 Sep 2020]
When unbelief is a good thing – boasting
is veneer over doubt -- neither true nor false
biblical content worthy of unbelief – tolerate unbelievers –
unbelievers must tolerate those who do not believe them
78 Why are you not effective? [25 Sep 2020]
Starting a fight does not garner favors.
You are effective when positive.
fighting is ineffective. Good political paths lead to an outcome.
Losing the vote is
occasion to accommodate and assist someone else’s path.
Replace impasse by
finding agreement; success comes from “we believe.”
We get self out of
the way and then apply everything we have to what everyone
“Losing” the election merely changes our route to positive
Cooperation results from giving support, not from screaming
80 The power is in you [2 Oct 2020]
Outlook, PMA empower us
to realize what could be.
Fighting does not make the country beautiful. We make it look
Imperfection--do we find fault, or do we improve the object of
81 Demographics and history [6 Oct 2020]
masters, foreign conquerors, exploited labor turned voter,
American colonization and immigration into America – human rights
– Switzerland, Russia
American neighborhood and bongo drums – micro level – object of
82 Human reallocation [9 Oct 2020]
engineering equip us to produce more and work less.
Frugality and skills obsolescence also reduce the labor
adapt to change and redirect individual labor
83 I’m only one, but [13 Oct 2020]
Realize = aware +
achieve; one ant is small but not discardable
project appears too big, rejoice that you are aware.
Therefore it takes all of us (“ants”)
Avoid one universal overall clearing house; we
all see different aspects
roads to Dr. King’s mountaintop; our diversity covers the
Light and sound are
perceptions: what you make of it
world is not a creation; it disappears when light goes on.
Buddhism suffering = “not highest state of being”
long list of ills in the world; Dr. Schweitzer and ice cream
Materialism is not
material to happiness. Satisfaction is reaching an
right goals; external circumstances. Mental states are
Dame, twin towers; personal relationships over physical
Foundation: how we share our circumstances and
86 Nervous about being relaxed [23 Oct 2020]
To want the cure, you
must have the problem. Vendors see to that!
Business – in EACH of these, we have
Promise (the good),
Problem (the bad) and Program (my resolution)
Three stories this
time, the paradox = cure makes it worse
Telling each other what to do:
accepted in the family and close social circles
Overboard in Germany
Overboard in America
-> slavery, nuclear weapons, torture, capital
We Germans and we
Americans find redemption in facing the past and improving on
Here a favorite
philosophy is preciously brought to us by Dennis the Menace!
88 Want to be a freshman again? [30 Oct 2020]
Birth is a forgetting –
death is also; both are ascending to something new, not
fall; Near-death experiences fit subject’s expectations; parallel
or sequential progress
restart: no freshman experiences = no graduations
Resurrected to a higher order – long learning
period like the one after birth.
89 What is the cost of progress? [3 Nov 2020]
Progress in moon
exploration, interstate highway system, containerized shipping
Change disadvantages somebody. There is a price of progress.
Duty of those who benefit is to spread their
advantage and alleviate that suffering.
90 Overcome self to share the world [6 Nov 2020]
We cherish uniqueness,
expressing diversity. Teamwork accomplishes more.
Value is the gift you give; sufficiency; responsibility for distribution
Natural resources are not private property (including land)
Grab the flag: individual initiative; channel
coming generations (spread your unselfishness)
91 How to be my other half [10 Nov 2020]
you alone? OK, meditation is good. However, worth arises through relationships.
Somebody else is the other half. Strange bedfellows.
Learn outgoing kindness to your other half.
92 Think about infinity like a child [13 Nov 2020]
At the edge of the
universe, what is on the other side? We learn space, then time,
Broken bottlenecks don’t break reality, they lead us to learning more
Similarly, rising above conventional spiritual
thinking takes us to the promised land.
93 How to be more than infinite [17 Nov 2020]
We stretched to infinity.
Now we progress to a higher level—yes, there is something higher
than infinity. The “no end” game itself is infinite.
94 Spiritual boost from raw Brussel sprouts [20 Nov 2020]
Enjoying Brussel sprouts raw is one
reverent return to nature. Native American tradition developed
that capacity over the centuries. We lose it when we are
brainwashed with materialism. Good things satisfy; bad things
intensify craving. Overindulgence messes up our social order.
95 The peaceable dignity of understanding [24 Nov 2020]
We humans respond to each other. You have
great influence over how people respond to you. One word in
article 95 opens world peace to you if you apply it right. The
phrase “fight for” is obsolete because there is a better way to
get what you want.
96 The precious dignity of people [27 Nov 2020]
Reliability is a
satisfaction; human interaction is greater satisfaction; business
Your ideal customer is you
. The sharing of
interest brings vendor and customer together.
Individuality matters; voluntary aspiration is
stronger than assignment.
It matters to understand ourselves, other people,
and our relationships.
97 Helpless, clever, enlightened – which are
you? [1 Dec 2020]
We are bound to familiar
behavior patterns. Poor and rich alike have self-limiting beliefs
which stand in the way of realizing their potentials.
Sometimes wealth facilitates being clueless,
without street smarts.
Understanding removes barriers, opens
communication, and meets Humans’ Needs.
98 Why hold wealth for somebody else [4 Dec 2020]
Rising generation in
regard to education, to wealth—no self-sufficiency
Prepare the way for others, the (macro) global
family has adequate resources
What is above basic needs, you are holding for
99 What is so good about heaven? [8 Dec 2020]
Do you want to go to the
beautiful next stage of human progress? Not limited by any
theology, what would you like next? My reward is not an abstract
remote place. It is rather a condition
Don’t just long for
relief from something unpleasant. Instead, increase what is
pleasant. Too much rest is boring. Anticipation and realization
keep us alive—forever!
100 Labor for heaven here and now [11 Dec 2020]
Let’s walk over to the outskirts of
heaven to sense the interface to that peaceful place. It is not
; our work ethic as it smoothly
transitions to an eternal state of growth. This
article uses some teachings of W. Edwards Deming
in a heaven-based
allegory. Labor and management are on the same side
of progress: namely, doing the best we can in all circumstances.
We should not expect this heaven to appear
instantaneously in this life or the next. It is worth our
Beginning use of gender neutral pronouns:
ze (s/he); zem
(her/him); zir (his/her);
101 The new style for better education [15 Dec 2020]
Do you control your children? Do you feel
manipulated by them? The learning relationship is bidirectional:
each side teaches the other, learns from the other, learns how
the other teaches and learns how the other learns. Effective
teaching is enduring, including repeating, accumulating,
spiraling, distributing, and passing of time. Education is the
change that takes place in life, creating the better world.
102 Be the best version of yourself [18 Dec 2020]
This is a peculiarly Ernstraudian
perspective on goal setting. Self-other blending leads to
communal goals, especially the ones for a better world which we
share with appropriate sensitivity. I suggest meeting Humans’
Needs as the common starting point and allow generous room for
individual variety. We simultaneously help and tolerate each
other by balancing talents and balancing outcomes. This has
nothing to do with money, and everything to do with who we are
103 Think abundantly to achieve your purpose [22 Dec 2020]
Do you think abundantly? Do you live
abundantly? Do you give abundantly? As God does? As humanists do?
What does all that mean? Value is enduring, not
artificial scarcity that raises price. Egalitarian often refers
to equal opportunity. Equal opportunity to grab enables the
aggressive to dominate. Empathy is the approach that can meet all
people’s needs. The abundant mindset is not material wealth, it
is willingness to cooperate.
104 When one size does not fit all [25 Dec 2020]
Some people invent solutions; some follow
when shown; some deny the problem. Protestors extensively use the
wrong tool because they have inadequate preparation and cannot
teach the detailed path. Asserting is not educating. Everyone has
a path through past, present, and future. The better goal is not
to pass a law; it is to improve behavior because we believe in
better. Helping the poor and needy requires unselfish
collaboration at the personal
105 When to treat me like a cow [29 Dec 2020]
Can we treat employees at least as well
as we treat cows? Farmers learn to keep their animals healthy. We
are capable of making sure every laborer is cared for.
Rich and super-rich people generally mean
to do well, but they are not adequately covering the above need.
Since THEY are the ones with the resources, THEY have the
responsibility to administer them effectively. We should be
respectful of millionaires (support their efforts to do right),
while they do well to respect the choices of us common folk, the
beneficiaries—after all, we don’t feed cows sawdust!
106 How to blend self with other [1 Jan 2021]
Are you ready for an upbeat, witty
observation of happiness? Today’s article is not scolding anyone
for anything. It is celebrating our mutual existence and thanking
you for joining me here. From a self-centered infant who tends to
be a self-centered adult comes a sincere appreciation of you, the
reader. My story encourages you to positive relationships within
the human family, where you enjoy the oneness of the
107 Dispense (with) punishment [5 Jan 2021]
Growing the future
includes laying the old behind when it holds us back. Today we
replace a big negative roadblock with a happier, more productive
mindset. The beacon points to better life based on good example
and positive expectations.
108 Is the passage of time progress? [8 Jan 2021]
Mind games help us stretch our
thinking—out of complacency and pat answers. Today we study time,
space, and life forms above humans. The progress of the
individual is different from the progress of the species and
there is ever increasing complexity.
The article may be a bit poetic. At the
end, we feel small enough to think that we do not know it
109 On the threshold of wealth [12 Jan 2021]
The country’s pain is not a person. It is
anger. The pain will endure as long as the anger. Attempting to
get even and to override others is scripted discord. Triumph over
the other expresses selfishness, not completeness. Every
resetting of course provides some degree of fresh start. It was
so beautifully expressed in George H. W. Bush’s emphasis on the
“kinder, gentler America.” With a dramatic personnel change
underway, we have the perfect moment to institute that more
divine order. Our joy lies in being the new America where we
sincerely care about the least of these (our
110 How to enjoy Ernstraudian wealth [15 Jan 2021]
discussion, we look at constructive tolerant action. Pacifism is
anything but passive; happiness is sharing. Love reaps peace in a
better society. Putting others ahead of self is the blessing I
aim to bring to my country’s people. Parents who control their
children make themselves unhappy. Apply that to
Until my persuasion
prevails, it is my duty to live peacefully in a country that does
not live up to my standards. It is not my place to overthrow the
government of the country when it offends me. Let’s get along
peacefully with each other.
111 The hero who found beauty in us [19 Jan 2021]
New arrivals will find here what they
found in their previous neighborhoods—unless they expect
to finding better. The worlds we find depend on what we seek. Dr.
King would have us find the promised land by creating it from
within. I never met him in person, but he is my friend.
We have the opportunity, not a burden, to
find the good. The mountaintop provides positive perspective.
When I hear this hero speak, my heart beats quicker and my eyes
tear up. Enjoy today’s tribute.
112 How to succeed by being nice [22 Jan 2021]
Happiness is not
something that is forced upon us. We achieve it by expanding into
our opportunities and improving our circumstances. The improving
we do, not the attention we are given, is the foundation of our
The strength we radiate
will attract, not compel, the better social order we seek. Our
examples must persuade others that we are happy. Persuasion is
only one aspect. The bigger principle is that we improve
everything worthwhile by being nice.
113 How we improved the world by ourselves [26 Jan 2021]
Am I going to Hell? Some people think I
am. Are they brainwashed? Relying stubbornly on political dirty
tricks is a different kind of brainwashing. Journalists relax a
little now that objective facts are
Whether Hell exists is less urgent than
whether my neighbor loves me. I influence the latter condition.
Unhappy people are often pessimistic because they are upsetting
themselves with the attitudes they practice. The world is not
generally under my control. My worldview
is. I will not
bring unhappiness on myself.
114 If you are not happy, why? [29 Jan
Work and exercise build muscle. Is that
the only reward? Might the exercise also be doing useful work?
Quitting exercise causes atrophy. Fortunately, being unable to
work does not mean doing nothing at all. We can substitute
activities. Increased happiness of others is not a result
of our happiness; it is the cause
. Beauty and happiness
attach to health--especially mental health. Therefore, let us
increase happiness by giving it away. These stories show failure
and success of the process.
115 What glory rises in me today? [2 Feb
When my perspective falters, poetry
inspires and strengthens me. In this article, a David Whyte poem
provides the ideal metaphor for the glory that rises with the
day. We reflect on the inner core of Jane Addams and Dr. King,
who radiate from the genuine foundation within. We become aware
of what we think and say as evidence of what we are and the power
within us. Instead of complaining, we creators are fully occupied
with positive perspective that becomes our world. We direct our
energy, with our attention, from what is wrong to what is
116 Super motivation: rolled oats are goat candy [5 Feb 2021]
Goats eagerly respond to rolled oats.
Humans are inclined toward results they perceive as desirable and
reachable, and they cooperate with enthusiasm to achieve them.
Abundance depends on getting on a common track. Causes have
effects. Associating available resources with desired outcomes
promotes solutions. It matters how and where we ask the
questions. Demonstration is ongoing and more constructive than
admonition. Influencing is speaking to people's motivations.
Successful leaders are appealing
. Am I winning you
117 How do you know when you are happy? [6
If you choose unhappiness,
that means unhappiness makes you happy.
[proof: you choose it]
Now we introduce the garden-variety
do-gooder who shouts, "these people are hungry!" Does
that make you sad? Much to the contrary, it makes me happy that
someone has caught the vision! Being oblivious to shortage is not
happiness. It is merely ignorance.
Wake up, world, and be happy that
somebody has cried out. That call to action is our only hope, and
hope is my greatest happiness. Going forward, we set in motion
all the positive feelings and energies that attend to the human
condition. (1247 words)
118 If it isn't right, fix it [4 Jun 2021
It takes keen insight to change only the proper things. Along with deciding what to change and how to change it, we must also ask who should change it. Decisions by individuals and small bodies have enormous repercussions, impacting personal and world peace. Anyone owns the problem who is aware of it, but it is all right to need help when we are overwhelmed. Nevertheless, we are never justified for using the magnitude argument as a reason for not caring. We must expand awareness to the community that can take action. We are all born to this responsibility and opportunity. (1236 words)
119 Inequality isn't right, fix it [8 Jun 2021]
Government is not taking assets from one party and dropping them on another. However, when the parties realize equality makes them all better off, they develop tools for working toward that condition. Then government is an agent for accomplishing the common will. We must think in results, not slogans. When we wish for enough food, we must not add "for me." A worthy desire says, "for everyone." Equal is not identical; happiness is idiosyncratic. Sensitive, aware people don't look at "I want." Instead, they describe society as "we have." Moral self-regulation concentrates on meeting "our needs" ahead of "my needs." (1082 words)
120 Heal people the
easy only way [11 Jun 2021]
We recover from wrong things we do and go on making progress. We should dispense with the concepts of sin and guilt. Teachers regarded me with dignity and accepted me for the educated individual I was becoming. Religious emphasis on sin and guilt holds its captives in a negative outlook. Effective motivation is healthy realization of self. Society does well to organize work meaningfully. We love bullies; it is the love that heals them. Remedial work is by nature difficult. Consistently loving is the easy way to make the world better. We can afford to be nice to each other. (1289 words)
121 They cry for help [15 Jun 2021]
Prejudice and misunderstanding are terrible. Do they call for action? Deciding that comes after deeply understanding underlying deficiencies. Misbehavers are not sharing happiness; they are acting out their insecurities. Sadly, even the victims of the most serious misinformation act on the premise that their information is correct. They are empty barrels crying for better substance. Empathetic sharing of truth is non-confrontational healing balm. Merely contradicting is inadequate to achieve progress. Confident indirection minimizes conflict by substituting higher thoughts in place of aggressions. We do not overcome offenders. We help them to grow. PS: The most opinionated voice here is mine. (1270 words)
122 Did I contradict myself? [15 Jun 2021]
If all humans are equal, how do I know my "understanding" viewpoint is correct? What appears to an aggrieved party as ignorant prejudice appears to the bully as progress. If I force my largesse on the other party, then I am the bully. We tolerate and survive our differences as we explore improving our lives together. Time is the healer. We look to history to sort out consequences. The biblical eliminate-the-opposition solution (like limiting voting rights) is blatantly cheating. We do not say, "I told you so." We say, "Let me help you find improvements." (1179 words)
123 How keeping calm creates a clear benefit [2 Jul 2021]
Doctors could conceivably feel disgust at the medical conditions that are presented to them. Reprimanding bad behavior such as smoking is not the most constructive way to build a healing mindset. If I cannot have genuine, nonjudgmental love for the recovering party, I have no business being the doctor. Today we examine positions of superiority and inferiority. Once you perceive that the other party is in pain, you are in the role of the doctor. In practicing your healing art, you are the one who lives and deeply experiences happiness. Yours is the lasting clear benefit. (973 words)
124 How discourse reduces anger and makes us happier [6 Jul 2021]
Contentious political sloganizing symptomizes the small minds that revel in thoughtless provocation. Adults are often not clear that their social exchange is harmless pretend battle. The root conflict is usually difference in assumed definitions. Misdirected enthusiasts reduce issues to buzz words and then condition the public into mindless reactions to those words. Intelligence equips humans to evaluate objectives and methods. Working through the difficult questions leads to realizing that there are common goals. We condition ourselves with the kindness that honors the dignity of others. Our happiness increases as we become a civil society. (1157 words) 1 comment
125 What kind of chameleon do you want to be? [9 Jul 2021]
Humans referred to as chameleons are usually being called shifty and accused of being untrue to their principles. Today's article views adaptability to the environment as a virtue. We remain ideologically distinct and differentiable, but adaptation makes us effective as we learn from each other. Protest adds to the noise in the world, making peace harder to achieve. Any tone of unkindness is a barrier to positive life force. Open channels of communication enable improving the world with love, kindness, and caring. "Fitting in" beneficially spreads happiness. (1182 words)
126 What kind of chameleon do you want to be? [9 Jul 2021]
At the birth of offspring, parents are unselfishly prepared and determined to provide perfectly for every need of the newborn. Commitment is total and permanent. The idiosyncratic child is not a completely blank slate. The parties and their environment must steadily remain in balance. A myriad of things can go wrong. Parents, having experience, carry the initial responsibility. By analogy, the populace gives birth to democratic government. Both sides grow within their respective roles. Neither can die or disinherit the other. Our legacy is a country that has had a new birth of freedom. (1133 words)
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